Conflicts Between Loved Ones...

In our world today, we are constantly face conflicts from time to time. Whenever of wherever we go, we may face conflict. And it only makes matters worse when we face conflicts with our loved ones.

Family squabbles are the worst. If you are from a fairly large family, you should know how quickly these little riffs can escalate into major, all-out family feuds. In every family, there is usually one member who acts as a diplomatic person. That person always receives the blunt of family conflict, too. If caught in the middle of conflict between family members, here are a few tips that might help solve or at least ease the problem:

• Don’t choose sides.
  The worst possible thing that can be done is to pick a side to agree with. This will only lead to more conflicts and fightings in your family.
  Instead, calmly listen to the arguments without making assertions or assumptions. Be understanding, but NEVER give in to the pressure of choosing a side to agree with. Being indifferent is the best possible way to act.

• Let them work it out on their own.
  All too often, families who are involved in fights aren’t really looking for solutions when they turn to another family member with their problem. They really just want someone who will listen to what they have to say so they can express their emotions, feelings and thoughts.
  When caught in this kind of situation, the best thing for you to do is to quietly let those who are having problems work it out themselves.

• Offer possible solutions while remaining neutral.
  Don't choose a side. Take a step back, in an effort to let them work things out on their own. If the family feud is still rolling strong, there may be one final last-ditch effort you’ll need to take to help extinguish the fire. If you have possible solutions to the squabble, can offer them and yet still remain neutral, then go for it. However, remember that you must remain neutral because the instant you choose sides, you will not only become a part of the conflict within your family, but also be blamed for the effects of your solutions.
  

You may wonder why I chose this article for the blog....
This is because I realized that whether we humans like it or not, often come face-to-face with conflicts be it with family members, friends, college mates, or colleagues. Sometimes, or you could say most of the time, we are usually caught in between other people's conflicts (and other people's troubles are worse than your own as you can never decide for them, but you can decide for yourself).So, when this happens, always remember to:

1. Never choose sides


2. Leave them be


3. Offer solutions that doesn't rob you of your neutrality in that particular situation
   

Article from http://hubpages.com/hub/How-to-Deal-with-Conflict-Between-Loved-Ones

[Li Ann =P]