~~~Different Style, Different Kinda Communication~~~

I've often wondered how my parents feel about each other then and now- after years of being married. From what I’ve observed while growing up, both are quiet around each other and they don’t seem to communicate much (casually, I mean). They talk, but only about serious stuff. Or maybe they don’t talk casually when the kids are there? I’m not so sure.
This causes me to think about stuff like…Are they not bored with one another? Will I end up in a relationship like theirs?
(Hopefully no, I wanna partner who I can talk and chitchat and do crazy stuff with) LOL. After reading the textbook though, I think I understand their position a bit better now.

Communication competence is relational

It says in the book that what constitutes satisfying communication varies from one relationship to another. Friendships are most satisfying when partners possessed matching skill levels. Relational satisfaction arises when our style matches those of people we interact with.

So I guess since both of them are kinda quiet, it’s good that they have the same style?Like I said, it’s not something I’ve fully understood and accept yet - but at least it is a reasonable reason.

On the other hand, I love Monica and Chandler (the couple from FRIENDS). Haha. They definitely have a lot communication in their relationship. Although they’re not real…just fictional characters…I still admire them! Generally too…I would say that they have the same style of communication and they use it well in their relationship.

When she’s serious, he is serious. (or better be, to avoid trouble. Lol)
When she’s funny and all hyped up, he is too.Yet they both know when it’s too much, and when to stop.

It’s even better cause they were friends before getting married. So I guess if you marry your best friend, there’s a higher chance that you get a more satisfying communication with your partner? Reasons are:

1. You can joke around with him/her…and they usually get it. (Same past experiences)

2. You’re more committed to the relationship (Friendship + Marriage)

3. It’s just cool and fun.

LOL… ( haha…or is this just my wishful thinking?)

pics from: http://www.fanpop.com/spots/monica-and-chandler/images/527117 and other various websites

*Kamilia*